Sinner:

My advice is not to read that stuff.

I'm in the same boat as you and I'm having the best time.

You don't need to sing from the rafters to be a member of the BDSM community and anyone who says that isn't worth listening to.

Rob

Rob,

I completely agree with what you're saying, especially in the sense that I am sovereign over myself, and that really I owe nothing to anyone else. Therefore I decide with my own brain what is good and right for me.

I will admit to being overly sensitive to feeling judgement from others, a judgement which may or may not exist anywhere but my own brain. That however does not change the fact that there is a lot of divisiveness that is not necessary. There is also a lot of really hurtful language that is completely not necessary.

When I am Emperor, that shit will be right out.

~Sinner

I've no doubt missed something since I found no source for the 'judgments' you cited, however, I'm always amused when the word 'real' is applied as disparaging or used in the same sentence with Community.

I've yet to find two people who are capable of sharing the same reality (the 'real'). They are as rare or non-existent as people swearing to the same 'truth,' when in actuality both are as individualistic, different and changing as the people who profess them. I suspect those who seek to arbitrate real are the same who need a well defined Community because they cannot function well with ambiguity and demand rigid structure to shore up their confidence and ability to function.

Isn't community supposedly a loose congregation of like minded people? That's like minded, not identical. It seems to me that community should be the middle ground between a mob and a cult. But that's just my opinion formulated in my 'real' world from my personal truths.

Kaz,

Don't be too alarmed.

I randomly spout off here about things from elsewhere in my life that upset me. I know anger can be destructive, but I know suppressing it also creates issues. And so here I rant in lieu of having an actual confrontation. Healthy? Maybe not.

But I thank you for reading my post and for not immediately dismissing me as a crackpot. It feels good to be understood. And you seem to be understanding my thinking on this point.

Thanks!

~Sinner

Sinner

Well done. You made me giggle and before that I was feeling so cranky. Didn't get spanked last night. Don't you hate that?

Sinner for Emperor!

Rob

Rob,

Since you have come out in early support of me, I shall grant you a fiefdom.

There was no spanking chez the Emp (eror) last night, but he was well attended.

;)

~E

Heh. Some people around here are like that. I lived with a few of them, honestly. Never let other people's faulty opinions dictate your thoughts about your honest truths. Advice I wish I would follow, most of the time.

Devi,

You and me both.

I think sometimes I need a thicker skin. I have no idea what it would be like to not internalize everything I see and hear.

But thank you, dear, for supporting me.

~Sinner

Sinner

A fiefdom! I never thought I would have one of those.

Many thanks. That should come in handy.

Being well attended sounds positive. Emperors like that I hear.

Rob

Rob,

Very positive. Uplifting. And cathartic.

:D

~S

It happens within any community, on-line and elsewhere. Tiresome. Unfortunately, it isn't just the trolls who spew. Seriously though, how many "true" BDSM practitioners, as you put it, tell their parents?? Bless. I cannot imagine. *laughs*

Beth,

Right on!

I do believe in integrity, but no—I'm not going to wear it on my sleeve.

~Sinner

Emperor Sinner,

I have found that the most intense play is the most secret. not because it is dirty but because it is contained so tightly between the two people (or more, if one is poly.)

As a fellow breeder, I am not going to ask my Dad what he feels about soaking the leather paddle beforehand, or just using it as it is.

I like to slip on a nice pair of boots and stomp trolls in my spare time. Let me know if you would like me to stomp on over and jump up and down upon few of yours.

Liras,

I don't know for sure, but I think you could probably make money selling videos of the stomping... ;)

That, said, it is definitely in the nature of the best relationships (of any nature) that there is real intimacy. Certainly it is not necessary nor even desirable for every part of every relationship to be open to disclosure or discussion.

What I always hope for, but can't seem to find, is simple a safe place to talk about the trappings and the techniques outside of any value or moral judgement of my character.

But then, I have some really cool readers. Thank you for that!

Also? You're my first appointee to my Ministry of Defense. That is all.

~Sinner

ME? Ministry of Defense member...mmmm.

*looking at the horizon, fantasizing*

Great!

As for all the useless judging, I have hoped for better. Useful judging-which takes, evaluates, applies what works-is in short supply.

Take care, Emperor Sinner.

I am off to work on setting up filming of stomping (proceeds go into royal treasury),

L

Liras,

"Useful judging-which takes, evaluates, applies what works-is in short supply."

Very well said!

~Sinner the 1st, Regent

How delightful to find that you've become an Emperor, since I last read your blog, Sinner.

All Hail Sinner the 1st, Regent! :D

But seriously, what is a a "true" BDSM practitioner??

I had 10 years of private (private by choice) experience before I decided to go out and make some friends in the BDSM community. Now are my 10 years "fake" practice? What silliness.

I think they all should be spanked with a rubber chicken.
That'll teach them to lighten up.

Angel ;)

Angel,

I think, as you say, a spanking may well be in order, though I would choose something more "convincing" than a rubber chicken. This is nothing against those who might ordinarily choose the rubber-chicken-spanking, of course. In the Empire of My Mind, the punishment would simply be more emphatic.

For your suggestion on punishment, I grant you the Ministry of Punishments.

~S 1, R