A princess with bad taste?

IMHO, yes.

Because boys don't understand (or like) hints--since they perceive a hint as a maybe, instead of the direct communication that it is, they will come to the wrong conclusion.

And now, no matter what he was thinking, he will feel pressured.

It's OK to be coy when he's chasing you, but once he is yours--throw him a bone. Tell him what will make you happy. If it's to be, he will move heaven and earth for you. If not, it's better she knows before the ring is on her finger.

So yes, bad taste on a number of levels. But I doubt that's really what she was asking me, so I only nodded yes. Because I know what it means.

~Sinner

i'd have said it. But i'm not very nice, you see.

elise

Mae West said it best. "If you don't have anything nice to say, come sit next to me."

:D

~Sinner

See? This is why I need to keep my boots on.

She is a fool and needs a stomping, Emperor.

Well, she needs something!

~Sinner

I guess the $25,000 dollar question is:
Why didn't you?

nash,

The primary reason is that I didn't think of it until replaying the moment in my mind 24 hours later.

And if I had, I probably would have remained silent and smirked instead.

This blog is here as that outlet for me.

~Sinner

Or, as Gothe said, "There is nothing more frightening than imagination without taste." And to poll others for their agreement - could that be a conspiracy of bad taste?

I was something of a fashionista once, but that was a long time ago. If I had pictures, well, you might question my ability to judge good taste...

~Sinner

Emp Sinner: I too, was a fashionista and I am still in rehab on that matter (I relapse often) but that's a fucked up shirt design.

Yeah. But I'd still look at it.

;)

~Sinner

Looking can cause hurt! To the viewer, I often think.

Hence the phrase "You look great from a distance! I just can't seem to get far enough away!" Or there was a one-hit 80's band that wrote in one song "Communication is hard to maintain when the clothes that you're wearing are hurting my eyes."

LOL

But then, sometimes lustful thoughts simply override other considerations.

~Sinner

If you left that message on my car seat, you'd never be sitting in it again.

BB

BB,

Yeah, you can say that again. "Hints" do not rock.

~Sinner

Ok, so I get that "hints" are a no no once the fish has been reeled in. BUT, what happens when the significant other doesn't even listen to directives? I'm not saying I would EVER have done what she was thinking of doing. Quite the opposite in fact, however, some days saying "SEND ME FLOWERS YOU ASS" just seems to defeat the purpose. Or maybe I'm just not your typical female. Who knows.

pnthrkitty,

My premise is that men (often) do not get hints. Men understand hints as suggestions, right or wrong. Hints will become part of what he uses to make his decision--unless he has been schooled enough by women in his life to know that a hint from a woman is not about something she _might_ like. I have watched my fellow man, over and over, not get hints.

So, I believe that if something is important to you, do not rely on hints. "SEND ME FLOWERS YOU ASS" is what some asses need _to get the hint._

~Sinner

HAHA I stopped giving hints long ago (like 14 yrs ago). I just don't look to be rewarded in that manner anymore. It cheapens the act if you have to ask for it. So why bother? :)

pnthrkitty,

Exactly, which is why I think she made a noob mistake.

But I still believe there is no reason not to ask for what you want. Not asking builds resentment. If you ask and nothing changes, then there are other issues to address. Ideally (and I am an idealist) there is a place for ongoing dialogue and a way to find a place where everyone is happy.

Back to the hint that originally began this post: There are too many ways to misinterpret non-verbal communication. It's too easy for the recipient to infer more or less than you intended.

~Sinner

As always you are wise beyond your years. :)

Aw!

You're way too kind.

~Sinner