Why deny or lie about a natural curiosity?

Geez.

It makes no sense to me, either.

What human does not enjoy images or accounts of men and women enthusiastically enjoying their sexuality or kinks?

It's really a question of what you're willing to admit to whom. Now why we ever got to this point where we think denying our humanity is next to godliness I will never understand.

~Sinner

You mean to tell me that we aren't better than everyone else?

Psfffttt.... I wear my halo high.

In my own mind, I am a genius and a celebrity, but still a sinner. I really don't pretend to know how other people see me.

On the same token, judging the secret-writer for being judgmental is also being judgmental. I feel like I lost a karma point on that one.

Why can't I ever feel righteous? Erg.

~Sinner

My reasoned opinion says your karma is safe. It isn't judging that loses points. We make judgments constantly and if we didn't we'd be indecisive about everything. It is the condemnation after judging that disrupts karma.

Kaz,

Thanks for writing what you did—for separating condemnation from judging. This is something I have struggled with in the past.

~Sinner

Wow. Show me a man that doesn't make his own fun at least once a week and I'll show you a man that lies. For whatever reason, all men do this and sometimes not even for the sexual gratification of it. It may be a sore point for some women, but it's a biological and natural fact. That any woman this day and age can be that naive in regards to anything sexual saddens me greatly. And for the record, I don't think any of us have "judged" per se, I think we have expressed opinions. And that, is perfectly all right. Karma is forgiving on the small print I think. Blessed be

Heh heh, guilty as charged—as I have documented repeatedly. ;) Denial takes many forms, for sure.

~Sinner

I came back in today to look and see what else you might have said on this topic and it dawned on me that a lot of people have secrets that they would like to share, but have no where to really share them without fear of persecution by peers. There are things that I don't add to my tiny little blog due to the fact that some of my co-workers read my little musings and there are things that I simply don't want them to know about me. Maybe there should be a safe haven? Or maybe I should just finally shut up and create my own anonymous blog...

pnthrkitty,

I think Post Secret serves a purpose. It's a way to be artsy or clever or to just toss off a grenade with no further commitment. It's cathartic to read. I think the most valuable thing about group dynamics like Post Secret is that the anonymity allows people to say what they feel. And you learn that what others feel may not be so different from what you feel or what you have experienced.

It's valuable to know that the something about yourself that you thought made you a freak is a something that is shared by many. It's cathartic and healing.

I still believe that the most beneficial aspect of the 12-step meetings I used to attend was that I learned "Holy shit! I'm a man and I like things that men like." And I was able to conclude I was not really broken. I could move on.

Meanwhile, reading anonymous (or simply the outrageously frank) bloggers offers similar rewards in my book. If you have things you need to say, I say jump on in. The water is fine!

BUT anonymity is a fragile thing. I could probably write at length about ways to keep a blog as private as possible. In the end though, boundaries blur. You will be found out or you will out yourself in some way. If you want to be "anonymous," you have to put yourself through a witness protection program of sorts. Nothing you do "anonymously" can touch anything that identifies you as you.

It could lead you through hell, or it could be the best thing that happens to you. No way to know unless you try. But if you have things that have to come out, then I urge you to find an outlet of some type—even if it has nothing to do with blogging.

I could go on and on.

~Sinner

Thank you. I do value the wisdom you offer. Some days I drown in the lovely southern blanket of polite oppression and just need to let it all out. Other days I'm OK. It's good to know that there are people out there who feel the same as I do.

Perhaps I should restate the anonymity part. I know that people will know who I am. My issue is that currently everyone that I work with knows the page I use. With a separate blog, that I do not tell the coworkers about, at least I have the small comfort of knowing that if they find my actual blog, they were searching for something and that makes them either kindred or hypocritical. Does that make sense? As it stands now, I know 2 things.
1. They will judge, which I hate.
2. They will intimate anything I say blogwise in my professional setting. Which is not very professional of them, but happens all the same.

Again, I say thank you for helping to open my eyes and giving me an ear when I need it. You are a jewel among men. :) I'll let you know if I decide to blog away!

pnthrkitty,

You should definitely do what you feel is right, though I will caution again about speaking freely with the same alias. You're only a Google-search away from discovery. Someone *will* make that connection.

To date, I have had no major fall-out as a result of a few people in my life knowing I blog here. But I am aware, were it to become more widely known, that I could alienate friends and family. It was in fact those same people whose reactions inspired me to go underground. Hopefully, never the twain shall meet.

~Sinner

Ohhhh, NO, not the same alias in any form. lol WAY too many people know this name. :) But thank you again for all of your sound advice. I'll send you a link when/if I decide to do it. ;-D

Sounds like you're well on your way!

~S