"Sinner transgressed by ranting evil." Category Archive
January 24, 2008
I'm Very Proud of My Baby Girl!
Some guy hunted her down online and found her IM handle.
He proceeds to tell her that he's a dom, then when she doesn't immediately address him as "Sir," he gets angry. He says she's no true submissive and that she's bratty.
At this point she just laughs at him and tells him he's not *her* dom and her dom loves her as she is. Then she blocks him.
Which is perfect. There was no better response.
I don't know who you are, Mr. Dominant, but you don't get to go around to everyone saying "Hi. I'm a Dom. Suck it."
If you do, expect more laughter.
[+] Posted by Sinner at 9:38 PM :: Submit. [+]
January 12, 2008
No Protected Posts, Not Here
This is a rant. I'll say that first. It's just one man's opinion. But here's the thing:
I feel strongly that personal blogging is about making your readers feel included.
Protected posts work contrary to that. They are exclusionary and elitist. They say to me:
- You cannot be trusted.
- You are not in my inner circle.
Equally annoying to me are password protected blogs.
If you have to be that cautious, it should not be online. It is not a blog nor is it blog material.
Don't even mention that there is stuff you can't tell us. We know that. We know you made up your name and altered the details to protect the innocent.
For the rest of it, keep it offline. Keep it in email or IM or chat or in snail mail or on the phone.
Or put it in a different blog with a different audience.
Password protected posts are a pretty fine "Fuck you."
[+] Posted by Sinner at 4:44 PM :: 8 Submissives [+]
August 4, 2007
Men and Porn
This post began its life as a comment on another site. Because I feel so strongly about the topic, because for me it hits so close to home, I chose to post it here instead.
For background information, here is an article that first made my eyes glaze over then made me see crimson: Men and Porn @ The Guardian Unlimited
First off, the article says all of the politically or socially correct things. It says nothing that couldn't have been predicted and most unfortunately assumes victimization. As in, we are all.
Fortunately, I am not a politician. So I say "Fuck off."
I am so sick and tired of a media that profits from sexuality-that-sells-their-stuff also telling me that I am a victim of sex or that I am morally damaged by exposure to sex.
And I am so angry at the victim attitude I could spit.
Pornography is a problem if you believe that sexuality is a problem. If you think that reveling in beauty and lust is a problem. If you believe that your humanity is something that you must subdue and overcome, then I could see where sex might be a problem, right after breathing, eating and eliminating.
If you think you are a victim of oppression, then pornography might look like a form of it. If you think you are a victim of debauched morality, pornography might look like a form of it.
I was labeled a sex addict once in my life. I attended 12-step meetings that were supposed to counsel or cure me. I feel strongly that the diagnosis and the anonymous meetings did not help, save only to illustrate that rooms full of men felt exactly the same level of arousal that I did and told themselves they were bad men as I did. The men who said they were abstinent for weeks, months or years still spoke of lust, sex acts and pornography with relish. It solved nothing. Sex was the elephant in the room. By talking about not having sex, by strategizing what to do when you thought about sex, by thinking about how long you were "sober," or by specifically avoiding mentioning anything that could be construed sexually, you were in effect thinking about sex even more than before.
It's exactly the same as being with a room full of people on a diet. The subtext is always delicious food and how to eat more without consequence.
The behavior may be modified, but the desire is ever-present.
For the dieter, food is not really the problem, is it?
Therefore, look deeper.
Where there are those whose sexuality seems to intrude or overflow into their daily activity, it is possible something else in their lives is very out of balance.
What no one will say is that we are not children any more. No one will say we are sexual by design and THAT IS OK. No one will say that seeing pornography as a problem or a disease is really unhealthy.
I think that we as humans really have a great deal more to learn about ourselves.
If you feel pornography is a problem, fine. Avoid it. You aren't going to be able to eliminate it unless and until you eliminate male desire.
If you label it as vile or evil, you are effectively telling a large number of the men in your life that they, too, are vile or evil. Some of them might even believe you, and that's when the trouble starts. The anti-pornography and sex-addiction crusades are every bit as damaging to the psyche as the hysteria and nymphomania crusades a century ago.
If you think pornography is your only problem, there are layers and layers of the lives of men in your life that you do not begin to comprehend. I encourage you to examine what you get out of judging sexuality and sex acts as obscenity, indecency or immorality.
Exactly who is out of control?
[+] Posted by Sinner at 1:26 AM :: 4 Submissives [+]
